Naturally Curvy is a twenty-something married woman born and raised in Georgia. She is child-free and plans to stay that for quite an extended length of time. She has no degrees to speak of, and even less in the way of accomplishments, but that certainly doesn’t keep her from having an opinion. The one thing she’s always been is fat.
There are numerous fat acceptance blogs circulating the web, why the need for another? I don’t think there is a need. I do believe in speaking out and being open in hopes of being able to touch another person’s life. I’ve always been fat, but I rarely fit in with other fatties. I think it’s because I’ve always believed that fat people have just as many rights as anyone else. What others saw as confidence in my size, was simply my not understanding I should have been ashamed of myself. This is likely due to the fact I had other things on my mind (being a victim of child abuse), and never was really socialized. I always knew being fat made me unattractive, but I didn’t know others saw me as a lesser human being. When others refused to eat school lunch, I thought it was because they didn’t like the taste (and I was embarrassed by the fact it all tasted fine to me), when it was the horrible idea of getting fat. Looking back, I can see a lot of the mean tricks that were played, the social circles I was left out of, and the friendships I lost were due to my weight. At the time, I just thought something was wrong with me. I thought I was stupid, ugly, talentless, boring, etc., etc., etc. Even in the later days when I began thinking I was smart, funny, interesting, I still felt that something was wrong with me. Otherwise, why didn’t people want to be my friend?
I know it sounds naive, but it really has been an epiphany learning about fat acceptance and how people regard fat people. That’s it! I thought to myself, I’m fat and people don’t like me for that. I realized that the thing that people hated about me, was something that was so much a part of who I am (like brown hair or freckles). I’ve always fought for the rights of those who couldn’t stand up for themselves, and so FA goes right along into that. No one should have to feel ashamed of who they are and I want to help stop the ignorance.
This blog isn’t just about fat acceptance though. It’s about being eco-friendly, animal rights, marijuana laws, pro-choice, polygamy, mental health, gay rights, and religious freedom, to name just a few. It’s about me, my experiences in life, my perspective on these things, and hopefully it’ll be about inspiring and encouraging others as well as giving them somebody to relate to.
I have recently discovered that I am Asexual. I guess I shouldn’t say “discovered”. I’ve always known I was a bit strange on that side of things, but I didn’t know there was an actual label or community around it. I think my asexuality also helped me get through my younger years as a fattie. Since I didn’t care about having sex with folks, then they never had a chance to reject me sexually and thus there was no negative reaction. I’ve always craved intimacy, and I was able to get that through a few close friends, so relationships were never an issue. I didn’t want to be popular, I always prefer a close-knit group as oppose to a large bunch of acquaintances. This has had little to no affect on my marriage, I was upfront about my lack of sexual desire with my husband from the beginning. I am also polyamorous.
Just found your blog…I dig it! I discovered the fat acceptance movement about a year ago, and it was a totally awesome thing to find, even though I’m not technically fat (but our culture probably thinks I am). Anyway, I’m linking to ya!